The Myth of the Ideal Client
Has anyone ever told you that to have success teaching private yoga clients, all you need to do is figure out who your dream client is?
This idea has spread from the online marketing world and made it’s way into the yoga world. The advice, although totally untrue, is well meaning, I’m sure. The thinking goes like this: If you are teaching your Perfect For You Clients, your teaching will feel easy and fun, your clients will adore you, and you won’t have to go hunting around for new clients all the time. Marketing “gurus” each describe this practice slightly differently, but the Ideal Client or Dream Customer or Client Avatar exercise all coalesce around this principle:When you know exactly who your ideal customer is, you can sell to them more effectively. Business coaches recommend you create a highly detailed profile of this person; they reccomend you know their age, gender, ethnicity, income, specific desires, specific fears, and specific struggles. They recommend you write about this person extensively before you write any copy on your website, or create any products or services to sell. You have to know who you are selling to.Okay.Fine.Online marketing teachers and coaches may have something to offer yoga teachers here because knowing how to communicate effectively online is important for everyone in this day and age.
But the people who teach business to yoga teachers are really taking this Ideal Client thing way too far. The idea of an Ideal Client as a private yoga student is a total myth.
Can I say that again?
The idea of an Ideal Client as a private yoga student is a total myth.
If people are trying to tell you that you can have a full schedule of private clients that are also your Ideal Client, I can guarantee you they have never taught 25 private clients a week.I think this teaching is being misunderstood.The purpose behind the Customer Avatar concept is that your web copy will be more compelling if it is more specific. And for that reason, this exercise is totally valid. Let’s look at an example:
Can you see how this:
“You've heard good things about yoga, but you're not sure if it will be a good fit for you. You need actionable, tangible results, not new age hocus pocus, and you certainly don't want to waste your time. If you're going to have a yoga practice, you know you need a teacher who makes it as easy as possible to see positive change quickly and tailors the practice to your schedule, needs and goals.I teach time-crunched professionals how to create strength, balance, and ease in their body and mind so they can be more productive at work, more present at home, and enjoy every day to its fullest.”
Is more compelling than this:
“Yoga can help you heal from anything that ails you. It has changed my life and I know it can help you too! It is calming and relieves stress and anyone can do yoga. I loved yoga from my very first class. I’ve studied with this teacher and that teacher and this teacher really changed how I see and teach yoga.... .”Having an idea of your Ideal Student will make your copy more compelling. It speaks more directly to some people and makes them more likely to reach out to you.
But, as far as I’m concerned, that is where the usefulness of the Dream Customer Avatar exercise ends. I think trying to apply this concept to the gritty work of being in an intimate teaching relationship with a client doesn’t translate.
And this, you guys, is really good news!
Teaching private yoga clients, well, is really really hard work. And even if you love it, it will feel like hard work. Don’t mistake the hard work as a sign that you aren’t teaching your “ideal client”. Tell me if this is what happens:You have a session with a new brand new client. They are hard to read, and you can’t tell if they are getting what they want. You walk away feeling awkward and uncomfortable...ORYou teach a client you’ve been teaching for years, and they still have trouble respecting your boundaries of time and money. You have to keep reminding them of your policies. Your interactions with this student make you feel frustrated and underappreciated. ORYou try to plan well for your sessions, but you feel unsure about how to best help your private clients because their needs and wants in total opposition to each other. You think, “This person doesn’t even know what they need, I can’t help them!” When their session ends you feel like a total failure.
And all this stress and frustration makes you feel like you’re just not teaching your Ideal Client. You’re tempted to fire these clients, and go on a hunt for your Dream Student.
Well y’all, there is good news and bad news.
The bad news is, you don’t get to have a full private practice of people who are easy to teach, because any time you are in an intimate 1x1 relationship with someone, especially in a healing context, their “stuff” will come out; partly so it can get dealt with. It’s your job to deal with the difficulties these students bring to the session in a way that helps them move towards more balance and grace in their inner and outer lives. The good news is, this is what it’s like for everyone who is teaching a full schedule of private clients. You’re not alone! It feels like challenging work because it is, not because you aren’t teaching your ideal students.
As private yoga teachers we have so many jobs that no one taught us anything about. We have to:
- Deal with the messiness of 1x1 relationships in a professional, supportive way.
- We have to help students figure out what they need and want from their yoga practice.
- We have to meet them where they are, and make the most important teachings of yoga accessible and useful to them.
- We have to give them what we may know they need, packaged inside of what they think they want.
- We have to inspire them to commit to their growth and evolution.
- We have to help them stay committed to their practice.
It’s hard work!
So we don’t have to wait around hoping we can fill our schedules full of our Ideal Client.
We do have to:
- Learn how to create and hold the space so we are able to turn any hectic home or busy office into a sacred space for yoga.
- Manage the intense vulnerability of teaching one on one so that we can stop feeling nervous with new clients.
- Know how to build trust with our students on every level, so they will open up to us, and real transformation can occur.
- Think on our feet and create sessions that meet our students where they are on physical, emotional, and spiritual levels.
- Create and hold really strong boundaries and take responsibility for that part of our relationship with our clients. {It’s not their job to hold the boundaries, it’s ours!}
- Manage our energy so we can teach a full schedule of private clients without getting drained or depleted.